10 Things Women Don't Owe You

Though honestly, women don't owe anyone anything, this is the ultimate list of the things women don't owe you, without a doubt. From a smile to sex to children or a conversation, these are the things that unfortunately our society has taught men to believe that they are deserving of from women.

The time has come to turn the tables, and instead take back ownership of our lives, our bodies, and of ourselves. Women don't owe you anything, frankly.

Smiles

First on my list of the things women don't owe you is, of course, a smile. Though it has been broadly talked about how irritating being asked to smile is, it still occurs on the daily. Women are expected to constantly have a pleasant and happy face, no matter if they're just walking down the street.

Women are expected to be approachable at all times, and if they're not, there's something wrong with them. And as our first point that women don't owe you, the need for a smile from women who don't know you has got to come to an end. What makes you think that you are deserving of that?

Conversation

Next on my list of the things women don't owe you is a conversation. A woman does not ow you a conversation even if you approach her with a smile, with a drink, or with a compliment.

Conversations are meant to be had with two people who want to have a conversation; it cannot be forced. And expecting a woman to have a conversation with you simply because you want to is absurd. If she's not interested, she's not interested. Though disheartening, she doesn't owe this to you, or anyone.

Sex

I would say that this is an extreme "thing" that woman don't owe anyone, but in our society, this is sadly something that isn't taught to everyone. Women's bodies are their own, and not to be shared with anyone they don't want them to be. In the simplest terms, politely fuck off if you think that a woman is required to have sex with you.

This goes for a woman you bought a drink for, a woman you have slept with in the past, a girlfriend, a wife, a best friend, a drunk woman, a woman who is wearing a short skirt, a woman who talks about loving sex, a woman who has sex with a lot of people, a woman who put you in the friend zone, an exotic dancer, or a woman who prefers women.

An Explanation for Their Appearance

Women are often expected to be constantly perfect, especially when it comes to their appearance. And due to our society, women have been taught that they need to be sorry for the way that they look if they are not in high heels, with a full face of makeup, and a flattering outfit on, with her hair styled.

As one of the top things women don't owe you, an explanation for their appearance is never needed, because this is a complete double standard. This also goes for women who are not a size zero, and feel as if they are expected to fit into this mold that has been created by society. There is nothing to explain, as it is who they are, and if you don't like it, that's your problem, not theirs.

Gratitude for Attention

This goes hand in hand with women not owing you a conversation, but one step further. A woman does not have to appreciate your efforts to get her attention. Just because you are constantly messaging her on social media, or simply calling after her on the street, she has no reasoning to be appreciative of this.

In fact, you should probably take a hint if she isn't returning the attention you are giving her. If she is not providing gratitude for your attention, this does not mean that should are allowed to react with anger. Put yourself in her situation. If you were receiving attention from someone you don't want it from, would you feel gratitude? No matter how pure your efforts are, this does not require any reaction.

A Date/A Kiss

Women don't owe you a date or a kiss in return for something that you have done for her. As one of the things women don't owe you, these two things require both parties to want to pursue the action, especially a kiss. This goes for the same rules of expecting sex.

No matter your efforts, how much you have done for her, she doesn't "owe" you a date, or a kiss, even on the cheek. Let it go. If she wanted to pursue you, she would.

Removing Someone from the Friend Zone

A very similar concept to owing you a kiss or a date, but a bit more specific, women aren't required to remove anyone from the friend zone, no matter how good for them they think that they would be.

The friend zone is obviously a place that many avoid at all costs, but this never means that someone is required to remove you from it. Though it has obviously happened before, a woman never owes you this, no matter how badly you want it to happen, how much you do for her, or how many people tell you that you would be great together.

Explanation for Rejection

Though we've covered the fact that women have every right to reject you, we haven't covered the fact that they don't owe you an explanation for this rejection, either. As one of the things women don't owe you, do you really even want the explanation?

Especially if it is coming from a woman you barely know, there really isn't much of a conversation to be had here. Plus, it will only dishearten you. An explanation for rejection isn't necessary for both parties involved, trust me.

Constant Niceness

Much like being expected to appear happy and approachable at all times, women are also expected to be constantly nice and always looking to please. This is clearly unrealistic, and something that is not owed from anyone.

Though it is right to be kind to others, there are plenty of scenarios that do not require a smile and a nod. And a woman who is powerful and speaks her mind should not be seen as a bitch while a man who delivers the same quality is referred to as a boss.

An Apology for Something You're Not Sorry For

To complete my list of the things women don't owe you, I would like to end on being unapologetic for my life. An apology for something that women are not sorry for is never owed. This covers a very large range of things that men often think that women should be apologetic for.

Anywhere from not wanting to have kids, to feeling upset, women often feel the need to apologize to please people, when they truly are not sorry. This is a trend that needs to be squashed, to benefit the confidence and mental health of men, and change the standards of our society.