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Yes...You ARE the Sh*t!

8 'Superb Steps' Toward Feeling Confident and in Control of Your Life

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Many girls in this day and age suffer from low self-esteem. This self-doubt may stem from cultural expectations of beauty as well as what type of environment that little girl grew up in and what she witnessed as a child. Children are very impressionable, and a daughter looks to her mother's relationship with their father for guidance on how she should be treated when she gets older.

No matter what though....YOU ARE THE SHIT and don't forget it.

Step 1: Look deep inside yourself and decide what type of person you want to be, what type of lifestyle you want to lead, and what you want to see when you look in the mirror (Getting a crystal clear picture won't happen overnight).

Step 2: Decide what things are most important to you and give you the most fulfillment (i.e. happiness, financial freedom, family, reaching a goal/dream, religion, volunteering/community work), and stick to it!

Step 3: Let whatever is most important in your life drive all of your decisions in a positive direction and use your intuition or your "gut" to confirm whether or not it's the right move to make.

Step 4: Stay positive throughout your journey. Don't lose sight of your driving factor and what keeps you motivated. There will be a few bumps in the road, but just continue to push. Remember, everything happens for a reason… going through difficult situations helps us learn a lot and grow tremendously.

Step 5: Challenge negative thoughts, girl! When those bad thoughts come, sit yourself down and really think hard about why the negative thoughts/emotions should not be there. Example: "oh my gosh, my face is covered in acne...I have to wear makeup or anybody who sees me will think I'm hideous."

NO! Wrong answer! Granted, not everyone is attracted to everyone…and you may not fit someone's type. But there is ALWAYS someone out there who thinks you are the most beautiful girl inside and out that was ever born. However, don't worry about what other people think of you. Start within yourself! If you feel beautiful and confident on the inside, trust me, it will shine through on the outside. Just switch up your diet, try new face wash routines…whatever you feel like you need to do FOR YOURSELF and not because of what someone else thinks.

Step 6: Don't allow anybody to rain on your parade and attempt to negatively alter your thoughts about yourself. You'll come to find that those types of people have things going on within themselves that they can't control that they try to project onto others. Steer clear of these people!

Step 7: Tightly monitor who you surround yourself with. Nothing is worse than having toxic people around you while you're trying to discover yourself, grow, and shine. If the person cannot help you in some way, or they help you in one area and bring you down in another…they are not healthy for you and you do not need them. *Note: it is possible for you to outgrow friends/family. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals as you do, but a little higher or closer to getting there. This will give you some sort of guidance and a target to try to reach.

Step 8: Don't forget about or neglect the little things that make you happy. This is highly important. This journey may not be an easy one, so along the road make sure you're keeping yourself uplifted by enjoying the little things life has to offer. Run a nice hot bubble bath, take a jog, sip on some tea, take time to meditate, go swimming, go to church, bake a cake, volunteer in your community, try a new cleansing diet, take a boxing class, go dancing, find a positive group of friends to go out and be social with....whatever gives you that good feeling and will help you grow in some way. Note: beware of those things that "feel" good to us, that aren't really good for us.

Disclaimer: I am not a professional life coach. But, follow these steps and you will see change starting to happen within yourself and your life.