Women

Patriarchy is nothing new in this day and age—it has existed for centuries. But the mentality that resides in the minds of people to believe that men are superior to women is beyond me. For instance, parents would expect you the woman, the apparent "weaker" and more emotional sex, to have the answer to EVERYTHING. Think about it—if you're a girl, maybe the first daughter or the only girl, tell me, have your parents every relied on you to fix certain issues? They expect you to have all the answers? You fix these issues, all the time, you have the answer, and you’re always on the go, on the call, ready to attend to their every need. But when you are all in the room together, they regard your brothers as better than you? You have something to say but they shun you? Tell you that you cannot speak among men. What inspired this was just a mere observation. A friend was on the phone with her parents, cleaning up her brother's mess, then I walked out to give her some privacy then I see a family and the daughter was about to speak and her mother shut her down telling her that she has no right to talk when men are talking... What does that even mean?? If she speaks among men would all hell break loose? Maybe the men would disintegrate if she utters something that actually makes sense. I'm sure men caused global warming with this behaviour.

Tell me why a woman can be at her peak, amazing job, beautiful house, financially stable, independent, hardworking and self-made, basically at the top of her game. But once she is in a room full of men, it appears that none of those factors matter. Why? Why do you not respect her? Why does it all come down to her gender? There would be a debate going on and maybe she is the only woman there. She would have to be extremely confident and have a sharp mouth before catching their attention or earning their respect... WHY?! Any woman regardless of her status, shy or confident, deserves the right to have an opinion during an open discussion. Please, men and women that enable this behaviour, ask yourselves these questions. Make it make sense.

Ladies, you are so amazing and talented. You have skills that even you don't know of yet. Society expects us to be tough but weak at the same time. We have to work harder than a man in a field where you are probably superior but because you are a female, you might not even be the first pick, but use this to your advantage and keep working hard until you have everything you want. But remember, you most definitely do not need a man's approval. Everything you do in life should be because you wanted to and no other reason because there is power in things you do, in the wins and the lessons.

To the strong independent women in their mid-20s to mid-30s, do not let anyone belittle your achievements because you're single or because you do not have a child. There is more to you than a man—your happiness, your career and experiences, enjoy all of that. Travel the world, build your empire, buy a puppy, and just keep enjoying life. You do not need anyone's validation, even if they are family. Just do what makes you happy 'cause you wear the pants, baby. You're your own boss.

To the girls at university, you're doing amazing, sweetie. You might not think you are but you are. Just keep pushing, try to enjoy what you are doing, block out every distraction, but do not forget to have fun. Go out with your friends, block his number if he is stressing you, buy a new weave, get your nails done because honestly you cannot come and kill yourself. Secure your degree and secure the bag, period.

To the mothers, you are phenomenal, you have brought life into this world, and you have birthed and raised humans. You are one of the strongest individuals on Earth. Some of you have raised billionaires, lawyers, aeronautic engineers, artists, and entrepreneurs and I'm sure you did not watch a TED talk on how to do that. You went with your best weapon, your womanly instinct.

To the ladies still finding their place in the world, keep on trying. Do not give up. Your time is coming. Keep grinding and praying because that is how you get results. You might feel like you have been left behind, or that what you are doing is not good enough but just keep doing it, if you believe in it, then you are giving life to it. Keep going. You have so much to offer. It doesn't always work out after the first attempt but do not let that stop you. We are waiting to see how amazing your new job or project is going to turn out. Just take it one step at a time and don't forget to breathe.

On that note, Happy International Women's Month.