Why Young Women Play Down Their Career Goals Around Men

Isn't it awesome that women in current years are going the extra mile and succeeding their life-long goals? That they're making their wishes come true and are able to work in fields of their passion and make a living out of it? That many women are breaking the chains of gender roles and becoming successful, dependent individuals who are making a change in the world? How amazing this that? Nothing gets me more excited than hearing the achievements that women have made. But you know what seriously brings me down, possibly getting on my nerves? That certain women would rather put men first before their life goals...

Yeah, you read it right, there are women who would drop whatever they're doing for a man's love. How horrible is that? For someone who's a pro-feminist and focuses on work more than relationships, it's actually terrible that women would choose a man over their dreams. But if you're the type that would rather not work and be dependent on your significant other, then that's your story. But I'm talking about the successful women who are making over $100,000 and drop everything to be with a man... really? Like, you're really going to walk away from your amazing career, goals, and success for a man who believes you should?

I know I'm talking big here, but I personally know someone who majored in accounting during college, passed her CPA exams, and once she got married, she dropped everything and became a homemaker... She dreamed of becoming a big-shot accountant, she even studied her ass off for the CPA exams, but she never worked, because her husband believed that she was going to have kids and there was no point in working. School is expensive, buddy, and all of that certainly went to waste.

Anyways, here are a couple of reasons why young women play down their career goals. Needless to say it pains me to write about it.

Men want women who are making less than them.

Starting off the horrible list of why young women play down their career goals, believe it or not, there are dumb men out there who prefer women who make little to no money as wives. Yeah...it's true. You know why they prefer broke women? Because men want to be and feel superior to their significant other. That they're the ones keeping the house up, paying for their wives' clothing, basically being the only source of income in a relationship. Stupid, right?

And there are ignorant women out there who believe so, too. They believe that women should always be dependent on their husband's money. Whatever they spend should come straight out of the husband's wallet. Unless you're a sugar baby, then that's a whole different situation.

For women who are making more than the husband, the husband wouldn't entirely be considered the only breadwinner in the relationship — and this could appear as a major turnoff to them. They don't want to see their wives making more than them, they want to be the one making the most or the only one making money — something women are expected to justify in relationships. Which is why a lot of women out there switch to less-paying jobs or completely stop working as a whole.

Men want women who are less educated than them.

Ever heard of someone who wants to marry someone stupid? With little to no education? Like I said before, men want to feel superior to their partner, which means they can't be the less educated one in the relationship — leaving the women having to tone down their knowledge.

In this case, there are women who drop out of college, even high school, to solely get married. They believe that education is so useless to them, since they won't be the ones working and making money.

But honestly, I've personally never heard of a man attracted to less-educated women. Smart women are hot, right? But to certain men, they actually don't like it when a woman outsmarts them... I basically look at those men as the dumb ones.

Men want their wives to be homemakers.

A lot of men, I mean a lot of men want homemakers as wives. Why? Well, from the reasons why young women play down their career goals, men want to return home from a long day at work to a hot dinner, clean house, and clean clothing. They don't want to walk into their house to an empty kitchen and clusters of dirt and dust around the place. Certain men want everything in tiptop shape at home — which is why they want wives at home cleaning the house and cooking meals.

If a man marries a woman who works full-time, then the two would show up home after a long day to an empty house. In this case, the two in the relationship would have to split the chores. Many men don't want this in their life — a reason to look for a woman who doesn't have a job, or persuade a woman to drop her job solely to become a housewife.

Not only is this selfish act...selfish, but women are missing their big chances in achieving their life-long goals and making big incomes. Incomes that can even help with bills so the husband doesn't have to struggle on his own. But no, some men want to be the only source of income in a relationship and search for homemakers instead — and some women fall victim to this trick.

Men want wives to take care of their children.

This is a big reason when it comes to why young women play down their career goals, who's going to take care of the kids? Husbands won't dare to spend their money on daycares, nannies, or other babysitters, they'd rather have their wives take care of them instead.

This is probably the main reason why most women leave their careers right after giving birth to their first child — to take care of them. Some women don't even bother working, because they know that sooner or later they're going to end up with kids and need to be there for them.

Sure, I understand. But wives who are so passionate about their job and want to work hard are forced to leave their job, because their husband told them to for the sake of their child. This, right here, isn't fair at all. Just because the wife gave birth, doesn't mean she's the only one who has to take care of the baby. The role of the father is just as important as well and you can't fight me on this, because there are stay-home fathers who take care of the children while the wife works. And we definitely need more of these fathers in society.

Men want a less ambitious partner.

A woman with little to no ambitious and dreams at all are ideal wives, right? No, actually, that couldn't be any more wrong. But certain men think so — according to the reasons why young women play down their career goals.

Men believe that women with barely any life goals are the perfect partners, because this allows the women to not only think about not working and become a homemaker, but to solely support the men and their goals. Some men want a little boost of encouragement, or ego boosting, and will most likely turn to their significant others for it. OK, everyone needs a boost of encouragement every now and then, but this doesn't mean women shouldn't have any life goals or ambitions they want to achieve.

Honestly, everyone in life should have life goals, at least one, from what I believe in. How are you living life without any goals to accomplish across that journey? Whether it's something small, like writing a novel, or something that'll take hard work and passion, like becoming a successful entrepreneur, no man should force you to turn down your goals and if you think otherwise, that's all up to you, girl. But, never ever feel pressured into leaving what you love; what you should really leave is your partner for pressuring you in the first place.

Women don't want to seem too aggressive.

A woman who's hardworking and is very successful in her career can be aggressive in a certain way. Hey, those who are successful are aggressive — that's how you have to be in the real world. If you want to achieve your goals, you have to go in there and fight. But some women don't want to come across as one, because they believe it's very unattractive. And this leads to dropping their careers and everything else they work hard in — to seem less aggressive.

These women believe that women are supposed to be cute, quiet, and innocent. That they should talk when being spoken to and never raise their voice. Basically, they shouldn't possess the emotion of anger.

From the reasons why young women play down their career goals, this is false. Very false. If any human being doesn't possess the quality of aggression, how are they getting through life? People must be aggressive and work hard to gain what they want — nothing will be handed to you. And in this case, some hardworking women can be aggressive. Excuse me, is that a bad trait? In what mind is being "aggressive" not attractive? If a man doesn't love a woman because of her aggression, then he clearly doesn't know what an ambitious person is.

Women don't want to be intimidating.

I swear nothing is more attractive than an intimidating woman in my eyes. Fight me on this one, I dare you. But unfortunately, this is also why young women play down their career goals.

Women in higher power and working in top-notch professions can come across as intimidating to certain men. Not only are they making a great income, but they have people under their power — which leads these women into becoming intimating to others.

Like I've been saying before, some men want to be the superior one in the relationship. They want to have the power and be the one intimidating others — not their partner. They think they'll look like a tiny shrimp compared to their wife. They see intimidation as super unattractive and they're really dumb for thinking this way.

If you're a woman who's very successful in what you do and have people under you, you do you, girl. Intimidation is sexy as hell and if your crush/boyfriend doesn't think so or, in fact, hates it, I'm going to straight up and say it: leave him. No woman needs that type of negativity in her life. You're a #BOSS, you work hard, you better make that money, and you better be intimidating. When the right guy sees it from your perspective, then he's definitely the one.