New Meaning to the Term "Daddy's Girl"

As a kid, I was told I talk too much, so I shut up. Then I was told that I didn't speak up enough, so I started talking again. This cycle went on for a while until I decided for myself what I wanted. I got brave and bold after puberty hit around 12 years old and I was always speaking my piece. Thing is, as much as I talk, no one seems aware of how much I see and hear too. I am very observant and the one thing I have observed is the large amount of young women clearly raised by their mothers with very little paternal interaction.

The psychological backlash is amazing when you think about it... I lost my mother at 5 years old and was raised by my father, surrounded mostly by my brothers and my only sister who I got to see during the summers and winter holidays. Between living in my father's home and interacting with my siblings, I learned many things. A few include my lack of trust in most women because I haven't met many I could fully trust. I've endured lots of women raised by women who believe in playing mind games. That's not survival, that's petty. I will always challenge a man because I tend to come across a number of them who don't believe it can be done. When I say challenge, I'm not talking being loud and getting in his face and more like simply standing my ground, no matter your gender. I don't do things in the name of being a woman. I do it because I want to. I do it because I can and I will. I don't believe in hanging in large groups. I'm not a joiner. My father has pointed out that sometimes I am too independent... maybe so, but if I can do it myself I will.

This sort of goes back to my last post about self love. There is a difference between vanity and self love. Self love isn't the makeup one wears or the amount of time put into imitating what one thinks is "life." Self love is knowing what helps you as a vessel thrive. You can pretty up while doing so, but is it a healthy prettying up? There was a woman I once knew who will remain unnamed, who declared herself an "Independent Woman" during that whole Destiny's Child thing. Thing was, nothing was independent about her. She had no job, and was living off of her husband's money. She was unkempt most of the time but always had something to say about everyone else. There is a difference between self love and vanity.

Another thing I notice is women raising their daughters to not trust men, to sort of play girls vs. boys. That's mindless and it makes it difficult to love and coexist properly. It is not a contest, we gotta live! We gotta live together on the same planet, why not work at understanding each other?! No, don't get a man and "train" him, learn to compromise. You knew what you were getting into when you said yes, didn't you? Did you? These are the things we need to consider.

I love making my own money. I love dressing fly. I love dressing fly in my own designs. I love my husband. I love when we go out. I love when we go out and laugh at people pretending to be "people". I love not feeling the need to be accepted. I won't say that I learned all these things from my father, but I did because I am my father's daughter. I inherited the independence and learned life lessons to make up the rest. I am not being discouraging towards women raised by women because I know some awesome women raised by women, but I also know some awesome women raised by women who believe in petty bullshit that keeps women acting in ways that aren't propelling. It's just something to think about.