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"Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos"

A woman's personal blog has caused quite a stir.

Under the name The Transformed Wife Lori Alexander wishes to teach women how to be good Christian wives. According to her blog, after 23 years of unhappy marriage to her husband, she finally found how to be a good wife through God's transformation. Her goal is to share her wisdom with the younger generations of women. Her website states that "[Her] ministry is based upon Titus 2:3-5 in which God commands that older women teach younger women to be sober, love and obey their husbands, love their children, be chaste, discreet, good, and keepers at home." 

However, in a recent Facebook post promoting her blog, Alexander has caused quite a stir. "Do you know how much more attractive debt-free viring (without tattoos) are to young men?" she asked her followers. "Unfortunately," she continues "there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church." These words were accompanied by a picture of a young, white woman sat in a field with flowing golden hair. Her post gained some traction over Facebook attracting over 30,000 reactions and nearly 65,000 comments (at the time of writing). Unsurprisingly, not many of these comments were messages of support for her theory. 

"That's a pretty specific dating agenda, like to see this on a 'Plenty Of Fish' profile" one user commented, with another adding "Why is it necessary for women to strive to be attractive to men?"

In her full blog post, justifying her overall argument, Alexander states that women should not attend college, because if they do, they will only become second rate wives. "Secular universities teach against the God of the Bible and His ways," she writes. "It's far from what God calls women to be and do: it teaches them to be independent, loud, and immodest instead of having meek and quiet spirits." She encourages young women to remain living under her father's roof and work until she can marry. Alexander also suggests that young women should study the Bible with their parents to learn to live in submission to their husbands. 

While many people have lashed out at her religion for her claims, which largely do not fit with western society in 2018, it seems that she does not have the support of her fellow Christians. In another Facebook post addressing the backlash, Alexander reveals that many people who also follow the Bible feel that this is a damaging message to be sending to young women. "Even Christians are rebuking me for encouraging women who aren't married to remain chaste until marriage," her post reads adding that the Bible teaches older women to ensure young women are raised in honour.

The viral post is likely to give the blogger attention for some time, and may even attract like-minded people to follow her. Her Facebook page now has a massive 78 million followers and some have reached out to back her up. "Take heart," says one supporter "...the exposure is reaching more women that you would otherwise be able to and so many are yearning for godly mentorship in their lives." 

However, despite her attempt to make us see differently, it appears that the majority don't believe that women should aim to be virgins, debt-free and tattooless so that they can attract men. The main body of comments falls largely into two camps, those who believe that women should be whoever they want to be and any decent man will appreciate them, the other is confused as to why women should be aiming to attract men in the first place. After all, that may not be our only purpose on this great earth. 

So, get your tattoo guns out ladies, it's time to go to college.

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