I'm Not, "Too Much"

My whole life I've been told I'm too loud. Too opinionated. Too expressive with my thoughts. You're so bossy! Quiet down. Stop being so honest. People don't like you because your personality is so strong. Well excuse the fuck out of me. Maybe I should just quiet down, stop being truthful, and turn into the little demure flower society obviously expects me to be.

Well I say—Get way the fuck out of here with that shit! People say they want honesty. But they don't. They want sugar coated bullshit wrapped up in a bow. People say they want a strong woman, but what they want, is a strong woman to stand beside them, who listens, and agrees with what they say. People say they want to know what you're thinking. But what they want, is your opinions to match theirs. And if they don't, then they don't want to hear it.

But with respect, it all comes down to having a vagina. And if you don't agree with that, then I bet you have a dick. When you're a strong, loud, opinionated person AND you have a dick- then you'll be taken seriously. Because if you have a vagina, then you'll be seen as overbearing, "too much," or hysterically emotional. Women are more emotional than men, and that's because of all the fucking hormones that flood our bodies on a daily basis. But just because we have all of those hormones and feelings, doesn't mean that our concerns and opinions aren't valid. It doesn't mean that we can't get angry or upset about something.

But because I'm a woman, who is opinionated, honest, and uncaring of your level of comfort—I'm "too much." Well I say that you're not enough. You don't stand up for yourself enough. You let people walk on you, and spew their diet racism and lightweight sexism. You push down people who are wonderful and colorful and amazing. Because they're something you're not used to. Or they don't look the way that makes you comfortable. And I have always been one of those people. Told to be quiet. Told to stop being so honest—Why did you say that? We were all thinking it, but you don't say it......WTF?

As an adult, I've developed a pretty thick skin, but even I have my limits. So I have systematically removed negative people from my life, my social media, and my thoughts. Fuck everyone who isn't supportive of me, or thinks that I'm "too much." Or who just sucks in general. That's one of the greatest parts of being an adult. Being able to decide who is in your life, and who isn't. Because I don't need one drop of negativity in my life.

If you think I'm too much, then the problem doesn't lie with me. The problem really lies with you. You don't like me, because you're not as strong as me. You don't like me, because you aren't as open and honest as I am. You don't like me, because you have no true convictions of your own. You don't like me, because I know who I am, and I will not apologize for it. I refuse to be a shrinking violet, so you can feel comfortable with yourself. I refuse to be quiet, and sugar coat things, so people can feel all warm and fuzzy. Not everything is about your feelings, and making sure other people aren't offended.

When I was younger, I thought that there was something wrong with me. I thought that I was weird, because I never quite fit in with the "norm." But I realized that there are a lot of people like me. People who have always walked to the beat of their own drum. As an adult, I am more than ok with myself now than ever, and I have sought out others who fit into my life and my chosen family. People that would never tell me that I'm too much or too honest.

Always remember, It is so much better to be weird than to be like everyone else. Try and surround yourself with people who lift you up and support you, rather than people who are negative and unmotivated. A few great friends and supportive family members is better than a lot of flaky friends. We are all unique and amazing, and we all deserve to be who we are, and find where we belong! Never let anyone make you feel like you are "too much."