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Help I Came Out, Hashtag MeToo

And No One Believes Me

By CaitiePublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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"Men could be falsely accused of sexual harassment or assault. Women could lose out on opportunities at work because men will be afraid to work with them." - Anna North (from Vox)

With the above being stated I would like to counter that although men may be falsely accused it is innocent until proven guilty and with this day and age the opposite is being practiced. Which I believe is unfair towards the men. However, just because a woman doesn't have proof doesn't mean it never happened. A lot of us women keep our mouths shut because of a number of reasons which could include:

-We didn't get a rape kit done

-The person is famous/well liked so it would only ruin our reputation

-We were with them as a couple so of course people will assume we were "okay" with it

-We are afraid no one will believe us.

And that is exactly what happened to me in a relationship of four and a half years. Us women are more sensitive than men so just the thought of someone not believing us is enough to keep our mouth shut. On another note, it isn't uncommon that there are false accusations towards men. But it's all about someone's character. Or is it? Because even psychopaths can fool the police. Does nobody remember Jeffrey Dahmer? He literally raped seventeen men and the cops didn't bat an eye because he seemed okay. Not only he raped his victims, but would often murder them as well as the disturbing part of it all - dismember their body parts and act on cannibalism. But back to the subject, Women are scared to come forward. Especially when women have always been the underdog of employment! There are still sexist people in the world who like snakes, slither a difference in wages. We can overlook that all we want - but overlooking the rape of women needs to stop. Also adding on to my response, Women are also afraid to come forward because of how we may be looked down upon when getting jobs because apparently, men are afraid to work with us? What has this world come to? The only reason you all should fear us is that we A) May work harder than you and B) You are a predator! I don't understand how men can be afraid to work with us otherwise.

Some of us women may not speak up because we also are from a small town where everyone knows everyone and we don't wanna be called a liar. I have had this problem countless times. What I say in these articles that appear to be personal accounts are true and nothing but the truth. I have even received hate messages on Facebook about how I should have been lucky to even "get some" or "lucky to have a great boyfriend" Yadda, Yadda, Yadda. I have been asked by girls on my friends list to answer what the hardest thing about coming out is- well to answer this, it is indeed the fear of no one believing you. I have lost friends and mutual friends even blame me but who cares. I decided to warn others and let go of my past. It is definitely a tough thing to go through and talk about. Truth is people don't want you to speak out. But you need to do what you believe is right! Do what will help you. If you prefer to stay silent, go ahead. But if you want to come out and share your story then please go ahead. I will support you and you have family and real friends that will also support you through this. We should not have to be afraid anymore. It is 2018 for crying out loud.

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