Expectations of the Female

Buckle your seatbelts, folks! I have some bones to pick. Today, I am going to speak about modern women and the new standards that have somehow been set. I am 21 years old. I was born in 1997. I'm not old. But I'm also not super young. A lot of women in my generation have gone on and on about fighting for women to be able to be independent, work, go to college, and depend only on themselves.

That's great and dandy and all, but somehow along the way, the women who prefer otherwise have been shoved under a dirty rug somewhere. Like I said before, and I will say again. I am 21, born in 1997. I am not old, and I am not necessarily young. As a woman in this generation, I wish to be a stay at home spouse and parent.

In my eyes, I feel like anyone should be able to do whatever they please as long as it doesn't harm anyone and it makes them happy. I honestly feel like we have completely flip-flopped since the 50s. Instead of making women feel bad for wanting to be independent, we are now somehow suppressing them for wanting to be stay at home moms and wives.

I know there are some of you out there thinking I've gone bonkers. But I'm not lying. This is a serious problem. I mean. My biggest dreams for my life is to either get somewhere with my music or to be a stay at home mom. And for the latter, I have gotten so much heat. I'm not going to name names, but it has happened, I can promise you that.

It's not that I haven't gone out and experienced it. I went to college for a bit. I've held down several jobs. I was doing music for a very long time. And I haven't stopped. I'm still performing. Just not as much. I'm more focused on making my relationship with my husband the best it can be, so we're prepared for little ones to come into our lives.

I'm very happy for those women who are going to college, who have a great job lined up, and want only to depend on themselves. That's awesome that you're doing what makes you happy and achieving your dreams. But I'm also happy for the women like me, who are perfectly content being without all that mumbo jumbo.

I guess what I'm ranting about is that its time we stop setting standards for women. All standards. Beauty included. There's no reason for it honestly. Everyone should be doing what they need to do to make their soul complete. And I don't get what others have against accomplishing that. I really don't.

For example; the skinny standard. We all know this to be a lie. Most of the boys I met in high school I definitely thought I was too chubby. But coming out into the real world and being awakened to the refreshment of the fact that was hidden all along: 50% of men or more like a woman with meat on her bones. I mean it was a surprise to me. A good surprise, but a surprise nonetheless.

Not that I'm bashing skinny women. I just want everyone to love themselves for the body they were gifted with. I don't understand why diversity isn't celebrated. Especially in a country like ours. Sex, race, ethnicity, appearance, social status, wealth status, none of that should matter. The only thing that matters is being kind to one another.

I'm a stubborn person. Anyone who knows the real me will tell you how hard headed I am. And even I can get over myself and be kind to whoever, whenever, wherever. Because everyone deserves common courtesy and respect. Regardless. That's just me, I don't know about the rest of ya'll. But that's how my parents raised me. And that's how I will raise my kids.

So when your out at the grocery store, or you're shopping for Christmas presents, take a minute to look at your surroundings. Take that moment to appreciate who you are, and to say "You know what? I look really good today." And then maybe pass that feeling on to someone else. Whether it be commenting on the cashier's scarf, or saying that you love the color of their hair.

I truly believe that if we pay it forward, one little bit at a time, and learn how to love and accept ourselves and others around us, standards will simply disappear with time and patience. I can't control people. But I will continue to do this whenever I am granted the opportunity. Thank you, everyone, for reading through my rant, and I hope that you will take some things into consideration the next time you think about this particular problem we have in our world today.