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Cinnamon Rolls for Everyone!
Do a quick Google search... You can find the Cinnamon Roll apology from now seemingly burnt Chef Mario. OK, so here is the thing. You can—but you shouldn't—say you are sorry for having allegedly done some bad things to women and end it with a recipe!
jessica youngPublished 6 years ago in VivaSnip, Snip, Snip
After leaving a mentally and physically abusive husband, after years of feeling like a constant piece of ass, and a sexual assault later... I got the grand idea to donate all my hair to charity, thinking that it would make men stop staring at me every where I go as if I was a vulnerable gazelle in the wild.
Alicia LynnePublished 6 years ago in VivaSurvival
Brittle, hollow, not exactly broken, but very near it. That is how I felt after everything. Everything that I was, the strength that I had built over the last few years, and the courage that I had come to expect of myself, was carved away by this process. The process of naming my attacker, facing my attacker, and listening as his lawyer took apart my character piece by piece in open court. I feel brittle. Like pieces of me might break off at the slightest touch.
Heather ClarkePublished 6 years ago in VivaHow I Dealt with Repetitive Sexual Assault
In today's world, most women are afraid to tell their sexual assault stories. For some, they have kept themselves in silence for so long, why would they talk now? For others, they fear the disbelief, or that others will blame them. A small percentage will say it's because of the celebrity misconduct happening, which is paired with the fear of disbelief.
Megayn FallPublished 6 years ago in Viva#YouToo
This past summer, I was working at a summer camp at an international school in Tokyo. This was the third and final time that I was working at this camp, and I had so much fun teaching kids about black history, building rockets, and enjoying sports day.
Honami KawamuraPublished 6 years ago in VivaWhere Is Your Evidence?
Seriously, in light of all the allegations and accusations of the elder men/women in power positions (this is inclusive) and all you've got is, where is your evidence?
jessica youngPublished 6 years ago in VivaI Am So Tired of Getting Raped
I used to believe I caused my own rapes because I am a woman so I am wrong and deserve to be punished. The rules were clear (don't wear slutty clothes, don't ever drink, don't ever do drugs of any kind prescribed or otherwise, don't meet new men, don't trust anyone) but the application was checklist style. My Don't Get Raped Today kit was mainly well rehearsed behaviors and a never used taser. I had to figure out, on my own, how to not get raped which varied from situation to situation. I might trigger one guy with my clothes that covered me completely which caused him to think I think I'm special or something so I need to be knocked down a few pegs. A different guy would be triggered because I said no but I really meant yes, you know how women like to play games. Our favorite game being hard to get, the best version is yanking away while saying stop and no interchangeably. Obviously the tears were for dramatics. When it happened, as it sometimes did, I'd pull out my How Not To Get Raped checklist with my faulty pen and get to mulling over what I did this time.
Imam Qadriyyah Mabel-DorothyPublished 6 years ago in VivaHow to Take Down a Rapist
Empowerment after sexual assault is an astounding experience. To take back your name, your body: simply to continue to exist. In light of the recent #metoo, conversations around healing are more public. Healing is not a linear path as moments, triggers and memories can arise unexpectedly. For this reason, unconventional acts of resilience and love can provide a survivor comfort and empowerment.
Simone AlisonPublished 6 years ago in VivaThe Silence Breakers
The TIME Person of the Year is supposed to be a person, idea, group, or object that “for better or for worse, has done the most to influence the events of the year.” Based on this definition, I couldn’t think of a more deserving winner than The Silence Breakers. All of the women and men who spoke out against their harassers, abusers, rapists, and offenders helped us all make a big leap this year. Some say that there is always a bright side... well, in my eyes, when it comes to the 2016 election, I finally see it. When the Access Hollywood tape came out of a presidential candidate bragging about “grabbing ‘em by the pussy,” I thought there was no way he could ever win. How could such a person win without any female votes? Silly me.
He Tried It!
The video above?! Just a little promo video... you should check it out! Back to the reason you're here. Sexual harassment is not funny. I know that. You know that. Everybody with sense knows that (well, maybe not so much according to the news). No is no. If you're trying to get with somebody and they don't want to get with you, then you need to leave them the fuck alone, period.
'Smile': A Human Problem
If you’re a woman, then you know that creepy older man that always says “smile, it’s not that bad.” And then he winks and watches you walk away, thinking you don’t notice or feel his eyes. He chuckles, thinking he is just so smart. He murmurs something to his male friends that you by choice ignore, but if you really wanted to hear, you could because they're truly not that far away.
Katrina ThornleyPublished 6 years ago in VivaYou Don't Know Until You Know
Growing up as a girl, you're taught to live in fear. You're told not to dress a certain way, act a certain way, and never walk around alone at night. Don't drink, otherwise there might just be a man hiding in the bushes in a dark alley way just waiting to attack. Always make sure someone knows where you are, where you are going, and what time you will be home.
Letitia LouPublished 6 years ago in Viva