Cinnamon Rolls for Everyone!

Do a quick Google search...

You can find the Cinnamon Roll apology from now seemingly burnt Chef Mario.

OK, so here is the thing. You can—but you shouldn't—say you are sorry for having allegedly done some bad things to women and end it with a recipe!

Listen up, sport...

Talk about in-salt-ing!

Seriously...so as a woman, as a mother/housewife/fill in the blank with any and all titles a woman has...I am sure I am not alone in having thought, more than once, that a husband is just another child in the house.

They do not think like we do!

They are basic. Very basic.

So if I say I am sorry and hand you a flower, it is all better. Right...you still love me and we can move on...yes?

SIGH. Sure. Yes, go on, ya lil pup!

So what is the issue at hand? How do we make these grown men understand that their apology is not an actual apology? We have to teach our children from the get go. We really need to stop teaching little girls that a boy likes her when he picks on her. When being teased becomes the norm for acceptance, we are left with wondering where acceptance really begins. This also poses the questions of; when we are treated nicely, what is happening, and why do we feel so confused inside?

So what is happening? From personal experience, it is hard to accept when I am being treated well. This confusion leads to sabotage of several possibly good, if not great, relationships. When figuring out what I was doing, becoming aware of how I reacted, I saw other protective actions coming out; waiting for the bad to happen instead, wondering if the other “shoe is about to drop.” This has led to many outbursts.

I am in a relationship where these outbursts come as a flash of memory falling out of my mouth! I find that I try to lump all men in one category… the same! Like all men are one living being all connected and not actual individuals with their own minds and thoughts. This is not a good process, which leads me to wonder: how many of us do this and at what point are we actually to blame for “their” continued bad behavior based on our actions, or rather, reactions towards being treated well?

More importantly, the “good” guys out there have to cushion us, build us back up, and protect us before acting. This has to be exhausting, but we need to heal: love, time, and patience leads to healing right?

So we need to figure out how to heal ourselves so we can no longer accept teasing as a reason for liking another, nor can we continue to allow bad behavior without making sure we are drawing clear lines in the sand for what is and is not acceptable.

And we are seeing this change come out in the media daily!

We are no longer going to accept your flower as an apology and, for your sake, "let it go!" It's not OK! From now on, you, like we, are going to think before you speak and act! Also, guess what?

There are consequences for your actions. Imagine that.

So, Mario, you can "stay on brand" and insult more women by adding recipes to what we already know is a forced apology, or you can just sit back, work on being a better person, and understand that your behavior has consequences. These are no less than a blogger's heaven, while handing a wealth of mothers yet another teaching point for their sons.

No worries, dearies...you are not the only one that's forced an apology. Yours just seemed more insulting than the rest.